Parenting

Balancing cancer treatment and parenting can be challenging.

Alongside managing physical symptoms, emotional wellbeing, and worries about the future, many parents are also trying to maintain a sense of normality and security for their children.

Every family is different, and there is no right or wrong way to cope. However, there are some key approaches that can help support both you and your family during this time.

Supporting Your Family

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You know your children better than anyone. Being honest and using language that is appropriate for your child’s age can help them understand what is happening. Share what you know and encourage them to ask questions and express their feelings.

Talking about cancer can be difficult. If you are finding these conversations challenging, speak to your healthcare team who may be able to offer guidance and support.

Maintain Routines

Children often feel more secure when they have predictable routines. Cancer treatment can sometimes disrupt family schedules due to appointments, treatments, or hospital stays.
Where possible, try to maintain familiar routines. When changes are unavoidable, involving children in plans and explaining what will happen can help reduce anxiety for everyone.

Managing Treatment and Family Life

Cancer treatments can cause side effects that make every day parenting tasks more difficult. Planning ahead and keeping children informed about changes to routines can help families adapt more easily.
Remember that it is okay to adjust expectations and accept support when needed.

Build a Strong Support Network

Your healthcare professionals are there to support you, so talk to them about any concerns you have. They may be able to suggest practical solutions, support services, or adjustments to your treatment schedule. Family and friends often want to help but may not know how. Giving people specific tasks, such as collecting children from school, helping with meals, or attending activities, can make a significant difference.

Let School Know

Informing your child’s school about your situation can be helpful. Schools often have pastoral care teams and additional support services that can provide emotional and practical support for children while they are at school.

Look After Yourself

Self-care is an important part of coping with cancer treatment and maintaining family life. Taking time to rest, accepting support from others, and discussing any concerns with your healthcare team can help you manage both treatment and parenting responsibilities. There may also be local and national support services available for you and your family. Your healthcare professionals will be able to help and advise you.

Helpful Resources and services

Children and young people’s service: Weston Park Cancer Charity
Macmillan Cancer Support: Support for Families and Friends of People with Cancer
Macmillan Cancer Support: Information and support for people living with cancer and their families
Cancer Research UK: Resources to Help You and Your Children When You Have Cancer
Cancer Care Map: Support for Children When a Parent Has Cancer
Fruitfly Collective – Resources and support to help children and families affected by cancer.